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You know your attachment style.
You understand your behavior logically.
But when you like someone? Knowing isn’t enough.
The old patterns come back and you can’t control it.
You still lose yourself when they get close...
or push them away when it's too vulnerable.
You still feel hooked by emotionally unavailable people.
You still abandon your needs to keep the connection.
So...it's easier to be alone.
The only piece that's missing is rewiring your subconscious mind to integrate all you've learned.
That's what we do with The Self-Centered Growth Method™
*Live Group Training starts Spring 2026*
Spots are limited.
WHAT IS THE SELF-CENTERED GROWTH METHOD™?
The 8-Week Live Group Program
That Bridges the Gap Between Knowing and Doing
The Self-Centered Growth Method™ is your missing piece.
This isn't another course that explains attachment theory. You already know the theory. This isn’t therapy and we don’t need to talk about your trauma.
This is the advanced level course that gets you to the final level - secure attachment.
Our practical, step-by-step process teaches you how to:
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Identify the exact subconscious core wounds driving your behaviors (without talking about your trauma)
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Reprogram your subconscious wounds so the behavioral pattern finally shifts
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Practice new behaviors that reinforce your new beliefs and build secure attachment through your actions
Over 8 weeks, you'll move through The Self-Centered Growth Method™ a framework based in neuroscience that takes you from insight to embodied change.
This method is especially effective if you prefer logic-driven explanations and clear step-by-step frameworks for growth.
This is practical work. Not theory. Not more information.
Please only apply if you are ready to take action to create change.
This is the final piece that unlocks transformation.
(Limited spots available)
HOW IT WORKS
Three Phases of Change
WEEKLY BREAKDOWN
The shame of how hard relationships are for you is crushing.
And you're thinking..."I should know better by now. Why is this still happening?"
But here's the thing... You're not stuck because you don't understand the problem.
You're stuck because insight doesn't equal behavior change.
You've been trying to solve this in your conscious mind.
But the pattern lives in your subconscious mind.
That's where real change happens.
YOU'RE NOT STUCK BECAUSE YOU LACK INFORMATION
You've been to therapy and worked through your childhood trauma.
You know all about attachment styles. But your behavior hasn't changed.
When you really like someone, you disappear. You abandon yourself to keep them, then resent them for it.
Or the opposite...the moment things feel too real or they are too available, you freeze or shut down. You need space. You push them away even when you really want connection.
Or do you just feel like giving up on love completely?
THIS PROGRAM IS FOR YOU...
You've done the work but your behavior hasn't changed
You understand attachment theory. You know where your patterns come from. But you still repeat them.
You swing between anxious and avoidant
You want connection until you have it. Then it feels either boring or suffocating. But when you get space, you desire closeness again. Relationships feel too hard.
You're attracted to emotionally unavailable people
The chase lights you up. Secure people feel boring. You know this doesn't make sense, but you can't help it.
You lose yourself in relationships
When you really like someone, you abandon your needs and boundaries. Then you resent them for taking what you freely gave.
You push people away
The moment things feel too real or too close, you feel overwhelmed. You convince yourself you’d rather be alone.
You're ready to center yourself
You used to blame your exes, avoidants, narcissists, addicts, etc. Now you realize you're the common denominator. You're ready to focus on your own work and become the right partner instead of waiting for the perfect person to pick you.
You're ready to take radical responsibility
You're ready to do the work that creates real, lasting change. You’re done with having a victim mindset. No more blaming the other person for these issues.
WHO WE DON'T ACCEPT
This program is NOT for you if:
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You're looking for more theory or information
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You need unlimited reassurance and validation
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You're not ready to take personal responsibility
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You're still in victim mode, stuck blaming others
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You want a quick fix or surface-level changes
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You’re convinced if you try harder, they will treat you right
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You are in an unsafe or abusive relationship - you can't heal when you are still in survival mode.
This work requires readiness, dedication, surrender, and trust.
We require a genuine commitment to doing the inner work, not just learning it. Not everyone is ready for this work.
WHAT YOU GET
8 Live 60-Minute Group Sessions
When: Wednesdays at 4pm PST / 6pm CST / 7pm EST
Where: Zoom - 60 minutes of teaching, Q&A and discussion
Each week includes:
✔️ Pre-recorded video lesson you watch as homework before the live session
✔️ Live teaching and integration on zoom
✔️ Real-time Q&A so you get support exactly when you need it
✔️ Practical exercises that move you from insight to behavior change
✔️ Community support from people who understand what you're going through
Start Date: Spring 2026
Duration: 8 weeks
Group Size: Maximum 12 participants
LAUNCH PRICING:
$1200 TOTAL
or 2 payments of $600)
(Limited spots available)
WHAT CHANGES AFTER 8 WEEKS
When you complete the program, you don't just understand your patterns better...
You actually respond differently.
You feel more grounded when you have a crush.
You stop swinging between anxious and avoidant.
You stop being attracted to emotionally unavailable people.
You walk away from situations that aren't aligned.
Secure people start to feel appealing instead of boring.
You can ask for your needs and set boundaries with less fear.
You aren’t afraid of being abandoned or alone.
You stay connected without losing yourself.
You set boundaries without guilt.
You trust yourself in relationships.
Your behavior matches your identity.
You become more secure. Relationships shift. Life aligns. More self-trust. Less self-abandonment.
More surrender to allow relationships that aren’t aligned to fall away. You feel calm and accepting of reality. Less controlling. More surrender.
This is what becomes possible when you go deeper than insight.
WHAT MAKES THIS DIFFERENT
This Isn't Another Attachment Theory Course
We Don't Teach Theory — We Teach Behavior Change
You already know the terms. You don't need more labels or explanations. You need to bridge the gap between knowing and doing through subconscious reprogramming of old core wounds and then integrating practices of your new secure self.
We Speak Directly to the Fearful Avoidant Experience
We understand the swing. The losing yourself, the pushing away, the confusion. We normalize it instead of pathologizing it.
We Explain Why Dopamine Tricks You
We help you understand why emotionally unavailable people feel so compelling and why secure people feel "boring." It's neurological, not character-based. And it can be rewired.
We Honor Your Nervous System's Logic
We Don't Shame Your Patterns
We honor them as survival strategies. Shame drives freeze and inhibits change. Understanding drives growth.
We Normalize Hesitation
Hesitation is often an avoidant nervous system response — the first layer of shame. We make space for it instead of pushing through it.
We Teach "Becoming" Not "Finding"
Stop looking for the right partner. Become the right partner. You don't attract what you want — you attract what you are.
We Offer the Bridge from Insight to Behavior Change
You're not stuck because you lack information. You're stuck because you don't know how to shift what's happening in your body when it matters most.
Your reactions aren't character flaws. They're protective responses your body learned. When you understand that logic, shame dissolves and change becomes possible.
That's the gap we close.
ABOUT THE SCHOOL FOR SELF-CENTERED GROWTH
Where Insight Becomes Action
The School for Self-Centered Growth is where you focus on yourself and learn how to bridge the gap between understanding your patterns and actually changing them.
We're not another attachment theory course. We don't teach you what's wrong or why. You've already done that work.
We teach you how to reprogram your subconscious beliefs and build a new identity through real-world practice.
This is practical, step-by-step work that moves you from insight to behavior change. From anxious and avoidant to secure. From self-abandoning to self-trusting.
We don’t need the details of your trauma. We only need to know what you made it mean about yourself (which is your core wound). That belief lives in the subconscious and it can be updated quickly, if you know the steps.
You'll leave not just with more knowledge, but with actual change that you can finally sustain.
This is the missing piece. The final piece that creates real transformation.
ABOUT THE FOUNDER
Meet Ashley
I spent years understanding my fearful avoidant patterns... the swing between wanting connection and needing space, losing myself in relationships, and being hooked by emotionally unavailable people.
I could explain exactly what led to my behaviors and why I did what I did. But I couldn't stop doing it.
That's when I realized: Insight isn't enough when the pattern lives in your subconscious.
Nothing changed until I learned techniques that rewired my subconscious. That rewiring finally led to the integration of everything I had learned and reprogrammed my behaviors and identity at the root.
I created The School for Self-Centered Growth and The Self-Centered Growth Method™ to share the framework that finally helped me change my actual behavior, not just my understanding.
This work completely changed my life. Not because I found the right person. Because I became the right person.
And that's what I help you do.
"Ashley came into my life at a very critical time when I had a lot of family challenges going on. I felt overwhelmed and stuck in the same loops. She helped me uncover the core wounds that were keeping me frozen and supported me to rewire and heal the old trauma." ~ N.D.
Launching Spring 2026
Limited to 12 participants for intimate group work.
You've spent years understanding your patterns.
Now it's time to change them.
This is the missing piece. The final piece that unlocks transformation.
Investment: $1200 (or 2 payments of $600)
FAQ's below or you can email hello@selfcenteredgrowth.com
The School for Self-Centered Growth
Center Yourself. Rewire the Pattern. Live Aligned.